When you decide to become a surrogate, you may feel eager to share your journey with everyone you know. However, not everyone will view surrogacy in the same way you do. This can be particularly challenging when it comes to explaining your decision to loved ones, especially those from an older generation who may not fully grasp the surrogacy process.
You might worry about them asking insensitive questions or responding with hurtful comments. Rest assured, you are not alone in these concerns. Many surrogates struggle with explaining their decision to loved ones.
Here are some tips that could be helpful:
- Prepare your research and talking points: Before starting the conversation, it can be helpful to make a list of what you want to say. This will provide a guide for the discussion, even if things don’t go as planned. You may also want to research common misconceptions about surrogacy to ensure you’re prepared to address any concerns from your loved ones.
- Explain your decision and your reasons for becoming a surrogate: Your loved ones may not immediately understand why you are choosing to become a surrogate. They may have misconceptions about your motivations, such as assuming it is for financial gain. It is important to emphasise your genuine desire to help others become parents and the joy you feel in doing so.
- Give your loved ones time to process and ask questions: Your announcement may come as a shock to them. Understand that not everyone will offer immediate support; they may need time to process and ask questions to better understand your decision.
- Answer their questions and clarify your position: If your loved ones want to know more, take the opportunity to educate them about the realities of the surrogacy process.
